By Heather Picken

When will I be deeply and genuinely happy?
- Marilee

I struggled with this exact issues for years as I felt that more money, the right  relationship..(Fill in the blank) would make me happy.  However, that wasn’t the case because I was living in my future and not being present with the true essence of living in the moment.  

Happiness is a decision and understand when you ask the question when you will be deeply and genuinely happy you are putting out resistance and not living in the now.  

If you find yourself saying this….

I won’t be happy until my business is really taking off
I won’t be happy until I meet my soul mate
I won’t be happy until my debts are paid off
I won’t be happy until I buy a huge house

Then you will never be happy and will struggle with never feeling like your life is good
enough.  I remember years ago when I was living in LA and was in a very toxic  relationship with a man that was very unhappy.   Money was very tight for us and I cared about  the relationship and felt as long as we had each other everything was great. 

Unfortunately, he did not feel the same as he told me that our relationship couldn’t be where I wanted it to be until he made a certain amount of money.  Looking back those days were very painful at the time but a great lesson to me that you can live your life in the moment and be happy no matter where you are on your life path. 

The biggest thing that truly takes us away from being happy is seeking approval of others, especially in a particular form.  You may think that you need your business making a certain level of income before others will acknowledge to make you happy.

One of my clients..I will call her “Mary”, was building her business and was excited that
she started something by herself at it was slowly taking shape and turning a profit.  She so desperately wanted her father to praise her and let her know what a great job she was doing by being a dedicated and passionate entrepreneur.  She spent years wishing and hoping for approval but never got it from him.  I asked her where she received approval in other areas of her life and she mentioned that one of her mom’s male
friends was thrilled to hear about her business and was very proud of her.  When she realized that she was getting what she truly wanted but in another form than she expected it really made her feel happy. 

If you are not getting the approval from where you expect it like your parents or friends
find it in other forms in your life..because it’s there!

Essentially,true happiness comes deep from within and not from material things, or
people.  Nothing outside of yourself will give you this.

I believe that happiness is a moment to moment choice.  You chose to be happy, sad, depressed, or angry.   Understand with happiness there is also sadness because no one can be 100% happy every day.  We experience a range of emotions all the time and the key is to always reset yourself to your happy point when you get pulled back into emotions that are of a lower vibration.

How to have a happy day

Look at your life and find the joy that you have in the smallest things…

Your dog
Your children laughing
Your morning workout
Your coffee (that’s me for sure!)
Your spouse/boyfriend’s smile

Absorb the joy each day brings and always look for the smallest things during your day
that makes you happy.  Choosing to be happy IS a decision..once you chose to be happy no matter what your life will support you.

Your happy vibration will send a ripple of good back to you as it increases the flow of
prosperity in all areas of your life.

 Love in Spirit,

Heather

 P.S. Check out my friend Marci Shimoff’s book Happy for No Reason